Performance coach Jim Murphy, author of "Inner Excellence," joins us on Story & Craft.
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Performance coach Jim Murphy, author of “Inner Excellence,” joins us on Story & Craft.
Jim talks about his years as a professional baseball player, his mother’s samurai heritage, and his move into coaching. He shares how he wrote “Inner Excellence” while living alone in the desert, and how it took off when the Philadelphia Eagles’ A.J. Brown was seen reading it on the sidelines during a playoff game.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
Jim Murphy joins Story & Craft
Jim Murphy’s Athletic Journey
Transition to Coaching
Cultural Influences and Personal Philosophy
Reflections on Dreams and Aspirations
Introduction to Living a Full Life
Desert Experience and Personal Transformation
Impact of AJ Brown and Future Goals
The Seven Questions
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Full Transcript
Part 1
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Jim Murphy joins Story & Craft
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Jim Murphy: What AJ Brown did was
kind of a, a launching point for lives
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getting changed around the world.
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My life changed, but I'm
one person out of 8 billion.
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Like, that's not a big deal.
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What's a big deal is millions of
lives that are gonna get changed.
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Announcer: Welcome to Story Craft.
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Now here's your host, Marc Preston.
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Marc Preston: Alright, here we go.
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Back again.
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Another episode of Story and Craft.
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Good to have you back.
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Hey, if this is your very first
episode, thank you so much.
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For stopping by.
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Uh, glad to have you.
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Most certainly.
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Uh, today we're sitting
down with author Jim Murphy.
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Now you may remember if you were watching
the, uh, Philadelphia Eagles play
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the Green Bay Packers in a Wild Card
game back, I believe it was January.
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Uh, Eagles wide receiver, AJ Brown was
on the sideline, uh, while he wasn't
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playing and he was reading a book.
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The book is called.
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Inner excellence and Jim
Murphy is the author.
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Really interesting journey he was on.
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Glad that, uh, we have the
opportunity to learn more about it.
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Jim Murphy's Athletic Journey
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Uh, he was a professional athlete.
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His mother comes from
a samurai background.
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A great journey you and I
get to learn more about.
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speak with Jim and share it with you.
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Okay.
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So let's go ahead and jump right into it.
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Today is Jim.
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Murphy Day right here on Story and Craft.
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Uh, where are you joining me from today?
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New York City, is that a home base for you
or is that a, are you just traveling about
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Jim Murphy: I live in Seattle.
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I'm here, um, as actually a United
Talent agency using their office,
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but I'm also here to narrate the
audiobook for inter excellence.
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Marc Preston: Oh, you're getting
ready to go on a long journey there.
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So we're finishing up the audio
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Jim Murphy: where you got one more day
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Marc Preston: where you originally from.
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Seattle grew up in Seattle.
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I saw that you had, uh, spent a
little time with my team, the Rangers.
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So that kind of like, uh,
gotta talk to this guy.
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So where are you at?
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I'm, uh, well I'm originally
from Dallas, but I live, uh,
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down in South Pottery Island.
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Uh, very tip of the south Texas coast.
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Jim Murphy: Oh, that
was famous for Spring.
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Drake.
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Spring break still is, or Oh yeah.
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Marc Preston: It's not as dense as it
once was, but I know in the street I
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live there are some rental properties
and uh, or some, you know, uh, short
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term rentals and yeah, we had a fair
amount of spring breakers on my street,
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which my dog just really enjoyed.
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Um, because, because it might
be because they walk down my
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street to get to the beach.
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So did you start off as an athlete,
was at your original game plan?
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That's correct.
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So was baseball is where you
kind of started off originally?
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That was your.
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Is that your first sport?
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Jim Murphy: Well, my first sport, um,
I wouldn't say it was my first sport.
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I mean, I played professionally
in the minors for five years.
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When I was in grade school,
I played six sports.
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I, I think
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Marc Preston: so.
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Is that like a big thing in your family
or is it just like a big thing with
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you, you just really kind of took
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Jim Murphy: care?
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Yeah, it was not a big thing with
my, I'm the youngest of five.
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Um, I think my parents were like,
whoa, what happened to this fifth one?
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What's going on here in sport?
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And we're not used to this.
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So, um, yeah, very unique
compared to my siblings.
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Marc Preston: So where,
where'd you go to college?
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Jim Murphy: I went to Bellevue
College in Seattle for two years,
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and then I transferred, played
baseball there, transferred to
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Portland State University in Oregon.
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Played one year there, signed
with the Cubs, and then played
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three years in the minors.
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Got injured.
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Um, didn't touch a bat
ball for three years.
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Then played semi-pro for a year, then
played professionally two more years.
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During that time, I played, um, went
back and played college football,
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university of British Columbia.
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So after not having
played for eight years,
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Marc Preston: so you had a,
a kind of a unique arc of
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experience, you know, moving about.
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Was that, were you kind of set on,
okay, sports is, it's gonna be, you
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know, part of my life forever, you
know, this is gonna be my thing.
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Uh,
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Jim Murphy: oh.
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I was definitely obsessed.
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It was a full on obsession
since I was little.
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I was gonna be a superstar.
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That was all I wanted.
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Nothing else.
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Marc Preston: I always looked at,
uh, when I got to school and there
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were these girls who were doing the,
and guys who were doing gymnastics
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when they had practice before school.
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I'm like, I would never play a sport
where I had to practice before school.
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You know?
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There was just no way.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Jim Murphy: That's a tough one.
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It was like rowers, look
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Marc Preston: at ro,
like, that is intense.
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Or swimmers.
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With your time with the Rangers, what,
what was your, uh, coaching duty there?
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Were you, were you with the team
in Arlington or were you with one
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of their, uh, farm system teams?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah, I
was in the farm system.
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So the way it works as a pro baseball
coach is very similar to a player
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Um, so a player gets drafted,
they go usually to single A and
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then try and work their way up.
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Aa, aa major leagues.
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And so it's similar to, to coaching.
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Um, so I started off with the,
uh, um, Savannah sand nets.
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Um, I was the hidden coach.
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So, um, typically on a professional
baseball team in the minor leagues,
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they'll have the head coach is
the manager, and then they have
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assistant coach, um, two assistants,
one's the pitching coach, deals
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with the pitchers, and then other
assistant deals with the hitters.
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And so I was the hitting assistant coach.
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Marc Preston: So is your coaching, like,
you're developing your, uh, uh, I don't
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wanna say style, but kind of you're,
you're, you're developing a better
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understanding I guess not just of yourself
as an athlete, but of, you know, how to
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impart that knowledge on other folks.
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I'm assuming that that
was a different skill.
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What was that hard for you to do
that, to transition from playing
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it, to coaching it at all?
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Jim Murphy: Well, I'll tell you
kind of what I learned a few things.
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Um, well typically.
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Um, I would guess 90% of pro
baseball coaches have no training.
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They're just players.
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I shouldn't say just they're
players who the coach liked and
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said, Hey, you, you want a coach?
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Mm-hmm.
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And their career's over
what else they got to do.
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Um, sure.
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That's 90% of pro baseball
coaches or players that decide
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to coach without any training.
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They have no training
in, in coaching, per se.
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They have training in playing.
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Um, I. And, uh, what I did
was, was completely different.
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I got, um, had no interest in
coaching and, um, my career was over.
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I'm in my twenties.
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I'm, I'm in Seattle driving a
truck for FedEx downtown Seattle.
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My college teammate, um, was
coaching at O'Day High School,
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inner city Seattle, and, and he
said, Jim, would you take over the.
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My team and I, um, I took over his team
and then we went undefeated, and then
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I decided I wanted to become a coach.
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Marc Preston: About how long ago was this?
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When you were, when you kinda made
that next transition in your life
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from doing, you know, something in the
working world, it's like, okay, this
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coaching thing, rocks, I wanna do this.
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Jim Murphy: Yeah.
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So I, like I said, I had no interest
in coaching and then I get, I asked
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the coach to the high school team.
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I got off work downtown Seattle at 3:00
PM the school was downtown Seattle.
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Practice started at three 30.
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I was like, okay, I'll try it.
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Um, I just had no.
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Interest, no idea if I could help
anybody or if it would be fun at all.
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And then they had a losing
record the year before.
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We never lost.
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And so I was like, oh.
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And then I had so much fun with the kids.
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Mm-hmm.
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So that's when I was like, okay,
I wanna be a major league manager.
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So that's, so that started this journey
of, well, how do I go from coaching
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15 year olds to managing the Yankees
in the World Series or the Rangers?
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And so then I ended up getting a master's
at University of British Columbia.
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Started the baseball team there,
went and played football for them.
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My plan was to, to get a master's in
PE and then get a job teaching PE at
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a high school in the States and then,
um, so I can pay the bills and then
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coach the team to win a championship,
get a job in college, and do the same
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thing and then, and then work my way up.
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Yeah, that,
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Marc Preston: that would
make a lot of sense.
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If you're a PE coach, but you,
you're coming from a professional,
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it seems like only a matter of time
before they put you in a position
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of coaching the baseball team.
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Is that kind of the, the way you think
is like, okay, you see the target where
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you want to go and you just start.
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Kind of mapping it out immediately
or is that kind of the way you,
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you know, you usually assemble
your, your path as it were?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah.
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My, my personality is, is, um, as I
look back on it, I, I guess, kind of
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obsessive compared to the average person.
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Um, I mean, it's not very typical to give
away over half your possessions and move
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to the desert, live a life of solitude.
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That's, I think, fairly atypical.
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Um, growing up obsessed about being a
superstar, um, and then spending five
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years full-time writing and researching
this, the book Inner Excellence.
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That's, you know, not super common.
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Um, I'm not saying these are great things,
like I think someone with less fear
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than me would've finished the book much
sooner, wouldn't take them five years.
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Um, it was a combination of the
perfectionism, which really limits,
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can limit your freedom and, um.
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And then fear.
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I think
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Marc Preston: it's the first time a
lot of people get introduced to you.
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I mean, you put a book out there,
it's out there permanently.
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I mean, I, I would be nervous
about putting it out there.
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Uh, you know.
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Yeah.
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But to kind of go back to when you
were younger, what do you think was
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the impetus for that initial drive
saying, okay, I, you know, I wanna
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be a professional, uh, athlete.
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I wanna do this.
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What made you want kind of set that bar.
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Like exceptionally high for
yourself out of the gate Was, was
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there family influence in that?
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Were you just as, who you're
watching on TV or reading or
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you know, what was that for you?
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Jim Murphy: Well, I think one
thing that is unique is, is
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my mom's Samurai background.
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Um, I. And so she's grew up in
Japan and had the Samurai lineage.
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And so we talk about that in the book.
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Um, and I think that's unique.
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Her extreme discipline I think was
obviously part of my personality,
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well, sorry, I shouldn't say that.
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My mom was very disciplined.
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I wasn't or haven't been.
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Mm-hmm.
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But I think that culture that I grew up
in, I just, I guess growing up I'm um.
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I just felt I was destined for
greatness as a superstar athlete.
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Mm-hmm.
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I always really had big dreams as I,
when I was little and I just thought
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the best possible life was to be a
superstar athlete and be on the cover of
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magazines and I was gonna live that life.
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And then when I got injured and lost
it all, it was really devastating.
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And so since, um, since then I've
realized that, um, what I've always
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really wanted was to feel fully alive.
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I just.
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Thought the best possible life was
to have all the girls and, and have
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the guys, you know, want to be you
and have all the money and fame.
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And that's what I thought it was.
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And obviously now I realize
it's much different.
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Marc Preston: You know, when
you're younger, if you're driven
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by different things for different
reasons, some make sense, some don't.
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I had this, I hardheaded
mentality on a lot of stuff.
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Somebody said, well, this thing you want
to do, it's, you know, competitive or a
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lot of people wanna do it or whatever.
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It's like, well, somebody's gotta do
it, you know, might as well be me.
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You know?
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You know, it's like that kind of blissful
thing when you're young of not really
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understanding what might be stacked
against you is probably helpful too.
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But now you'd mentioned your mother having
the samurai background, which is awesome.
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What was your father's background?
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Uh, where, where was he originally from?
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Jim Murphy: Uh, yeah, his, his
family came over from Ireland.
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Um, and so he grew up, he was born in
Minnesota and uh, um, grew up on a farm.
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Marc Preston: So did your mother move
over here with her family, or did, did
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they meet, meet somewhere overseas?
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I.
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Jim Murphy: Yeah, my dad, uh,
joined the Air Force and, uh, was
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a code breaker in the Air Force
and then met my mom in Tokyo.
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Marc Preston: Do you have a connection
to, is there sort of like a visceral
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vibe you got like that connects you to
that aspect, that culture that you know
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through your mother, uh, or, oh, yes.
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Yes, for sure.
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Jim Murphy: There, it's, I don't, it
feels like if there can be a connection
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that's deeper than just personal
personality, I feel like I have it.
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Um.
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I mean, there's so many
things to love about Japan.
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For anyone.
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I think like the safety is incredible.
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Maybe the safest country in the world.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, the cleanliness, it's
like spotless and even Tokyo.
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And, um, I. The food incredible.
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The honor, the, the smiles
and bows, the politeness.
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Mm-hmm.
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I mean, there's so many amazing things.
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Marc Preston: Um, you know, one of
the things I like that they still
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do over there is there's, you, you
must have business cards on you.
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That's the one of those OG things
I still like is business cards.
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You know?
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Mm-hmm.
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There's a almost, not ceremony, but
you know, it's sort of like you shake
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somebody's hand, you also give 'em your
business card, but, uh, but for you, what
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is it that if you could, uh, define a,
a couple things or even one thing that.
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You find that really resonates
with you, that you feel like,
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okay, that's my connection.
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Whether it be something historical,
something, an experience you had something
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that kind of says, this is, you know what?
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Jim Murphy: I, I think about that now.
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I, I realize I really like order,
um, having kind of a perfectionist,
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uh, personality in the.
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And so the cleanliness, the order of
the trains, um, and then the, the honor.
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And that's a huge, huge thing,
uh, that I really is so important
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to me, honor and respect.
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Um, not.
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Not getting it for myself, but giving it.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, and I see that there, um, when I
compare America to Japan, both countries
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have amazing qualities and, uh, um,
some of the, I think one of the basic
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differences in America is that it's
a very individual oriented culture.
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Japan is a very group oriented, that's
much more my style, community oriented.
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Mm-hmm.
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Oriented.
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Um, I'm not saying, well,
I, I do think it's how we're
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created to live in community.
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Um, like when I say community to
community, I mean, is is sharing your
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things in common and, and serving others?
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Um.
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And, and, but I think every culture
in the world is, um, more community
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oriented, oriented than America.
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Marc Preston: I believe that as well.
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Jim Murphy: Yeah.
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America is very individual oriented
and that's got some great things.
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Like when you're very group oriented,
it can, you, the individual can get lost
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when you're very individual oriented
and human nature is to be self-centered.
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Now we can run into a lot of fear,
anxiety, and finger pointing and, and,
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uh, turf guarding and self-protection.
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And so that happens a lot in America.
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I love America's the, the sports
culture because obviously I love sports
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and the people are amazing and so.
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Marc Preston: Thing I, I remember
watching, uh, it was Anthony Bourdain.
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He went to a baseball game in Japan.
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I like the crowd aspect
of Japanese baseball.
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It, what it reminds me of is the
Japanese version, people that are
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really into soccer, you know, like
it's part of your identity almost.
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I've always wanted go to
baseball game in Japan.
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Have you been to one before?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It's amazing.
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It is.
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It is very much, uh, um, much more like
an American football game or soccer
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game, which nonstop cheering and, and,
uh, yeah, it's pretty, pretty cool.
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Marc Preston: So if you were to say the
Samurai culture, Japanese culture, what,
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what aspects of that in your theory
that found its way into your book,
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what, what aspects of Japanese culture
translated do you think to your philosophy
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on life and success and whatnot?
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Jim Murphy: Oh yeah, for sure.
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Um, sacrificial love, surrender, um.
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Uh, honor, um, ego mastery.
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I think those are the biggest ones,
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Marc Preston: which in professional
sports, I think that ego mastery thing,
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you know, if you got a, if you get a
hold of that, that's, I don't know, just
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the baseball players I grew up watching.
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The ones that just some kind
of seem to be cool cats just.
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Like my, my, my, my guy was, uh, Nolan
Ryan, you know, and you know, you know,
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when Ventura charged the Mount, he got,
finally, he got blood all over him.
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He is like, I'm gonna keep on playing.
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I was like, there's this kind of, this
kind of like, steadiness to these guys,
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which I, I don't know, at a certain
level, I think, uh, I mean, I don't
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know that, uh, to be in your forties
and playing a game, you know, going from
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being a young man and doing it to, then
I think there's a certain kind of wisdom.
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I don't know.
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But who do you, who, which, which
baseball player did you meet that probably
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was the most influential in terms of.
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Not most influential, but somebody that
gave you some nuggets of wisdom and
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guidance that really resonated with
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Jim Murphy: you.
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Um, I, I read, uh, Ted Williams' book
and that inspired me 'cause I wanted to
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be the, the greatest hitter hitter ever.
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Um, my high school baseball coach, um,
he really, I. He's the first one that
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ever told me he was my summer league
and my high school coach, and I had no
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idea, like, just making the varsity when
I was a kid was such a big deal to me.
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And then, um, what he told me was
possible for me, it was like just
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completely changed my, my world.
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I was like, I had no idea that I could.
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You know, one day be
a pro baseball player.
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And so Larry book was,
was, um, very instrumental.
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Ken Griffey Jr. Was, uh, um, we're
about the same age, and actually one
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of my teammates played on his team.
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And, and, uh, um, I got to sit down with
him one time and he was, he was amazing.
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Uh, Ken Griffey Jr. The Hall of Fame
outfielder masters photographer.
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Marc Preston: You said
Master's photographer?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah, he's, he was
at the Masters, uh, last week.
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Oh, okay.
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Marc Preston: Okay.
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Yeah, I, uh.
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I told somebody this
yesterday, I'll tell you.
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Uh, it was just kind of funny.
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My, uh, grandfather back in
2004 was, uh, passing away and
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uh, he was still very sharp.
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He was a couple weeks before he was
at the hospital before he passed.
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And, you know, and I did voice,
he understood the radio thing.
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He didn't understand the voiceover thing.
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So, you know, outta the, as like
I did this project and the, uh,
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producer sent me the video 'cause
I did the voiceover for it.
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He said, you know, you can take that
with, because I was gonna, I was flying
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back to Dallas and checking in on
him and I was like, you know, I can
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show him this really cool project.
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And he, he did not understand
the voiceover thing, what I did.
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He had a general idea,
but I played it for him.
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He is like, now I get what you do.
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And it was, uh, it was me.
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Uh, it was 2000, yeah, it was 2004.
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I became the voice of the
Baseball Hall of fame.
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I said, see?
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I said, look, your grandson's
in the Hall of Fame.
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You know, so we got a laugh out of that.
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But when I was working on the project,
it was like a, uh, you, you really look
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at baseball for me has like a, a deep
history, you know, uh, it's everybody's
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pulling from somebody that inspired them
before there's this daisy chain you could
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connect all the way back to, you know,
babe Ruth or, you know, whatever have you.
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But who did you talk sports
story with when you were younger?
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Like grandfather, father, you know?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah, I didn't have that.
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So, um.
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Um, my family was, was, uh,
very, very strict, I guess.
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Um, and it wasn't sports oriented.
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Um, like, like I said, I was the
first of the last of five kids and,
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and all of a sudden this kid that
wants to play every single sport.
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And so in our family it was more, um.
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Um, being a pro athlete would, would
probably not be good for you because it
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would be create, um, pride and, uh, okay.
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And, and, and maybe, uh, um,
financial abundance could
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create other issues as well.
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And, and I, and I agree, it's dangerous.
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So, um, yeah, there I
didn't really have that.
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Marc Preston: Were you kind of the
outlier even with your friends?
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Like you were the one with, uh, with
the Ultra Drive and they're just wanting
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some fun sport to play, you know?
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Or did you have somebody in your,
like in your tribe that was also
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equally driven that you could,
that you could come up with?
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Jim Murphy: Well, it's, I was gonna
say, I mean, I feel like all of my
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friends kind of wanted to be, superstar
means league baseball players.
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Like who didn't, or NFL or NBA.
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But on the flip side, the Lake Young's
Elementary was right behind my, right next
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to our yard in the, um, the soccer field.
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And, and I would, um.
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Go into the woods and, and cut a tree
branch off and make a, a baseball bat.
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And then I would sit in the, in the,
I would stand in the parking lot, the
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gravel parking lot, and I would hit
rocks into the woods for hours and
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hours, like four or five hours a day,
just hitting 'em into the woods and
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just playing these games with myself.
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Um, full nine inning games.
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And, and so.
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Um, I never met another kid that did that,
and so I guess that was somewhat unique.
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I know reading, I've read Brooks
Robinson did that with a broomstick.
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Um, and then I feel bad for
Brooks because I. A broomstick
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would be horrible to do it.
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Like there's no way he was hitting
balls as rocks as far as I was.
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Even though he is a hall of famer.
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Yeah, with that little broomstick.
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'cause you, you need, obviously with a
broomstick, there's no, uh, no head on it.
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It's only like an inch in the barrel.
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Marc Preston: You had that initial, uh,
I don't wanna say initial, but you know,
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your kid, you just, you had a mindset.
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Pew, laser sharp, focus.
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You wanna do this thing?
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Looking back on that, did you feel like
that was a good thing, not a good thing?
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Or did you have any feeling on that?
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Reflections on Dreams and Aspirations
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That's just kind of where you were at
as far as being that young and having
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that kind of like singular focus?
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You know,
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Jim Murphy: I think it's,
it's a great thing to have big
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dreams and I think the, um.
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Most people, the older they get
the, the smaller their dreams get
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because they keep getting hurt and
they, they, you know, they get, they
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fail and then they get wounded and,
oh, I don't wanna try that again.
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Or, oh, I don't wanna risk that again.
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And that's what, so that by the
time people become adults, they,
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they, they're hurt so many times.
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They just keep shrinking back.
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And, and so that's why I get inspired
when people have big dreams and most
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people's dreams are just way too small.
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Even if your dreams to be world
number one, it's way too small.
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Um, because you don't even know
what that's gonna make you happy.
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Um, and so, um, pursuing a dream of,
of, uh, um, living with fullness of life
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and making a difference in the world.
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Now that's, that's powerful.
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Marc Preston: If you could say, okay, this
is the target, this is the personality.
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I wanna, I wanna reach with my, uh, with
my thoughts, you know, in this book.
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Who, who do you think that would be?
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Jim Murphy: Well, initially I set out
to write the best book ever written on
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performance for professional athletes.
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That was the plan.
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And then what I found when I was in
the desert was that, um, the path to
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the best possible life and the path
to the most peace and confidence under
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the most pressure was the same path.
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And so, um, it's a wholehearted path
where you learn to be fully engaged
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in the moment, unattached to the
results of what you're trying to do.
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And so that's for all of us.
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Introduction to Living a Full Life
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Anyone wants that, wants to
live, um, with fullness of life.
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And so if you learn to do
that, then you'll be a better
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performer, better school teacher.
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Better mom, et cetera.
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Desert Experience and Personal Transformation
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Marc Preston: You gotta tell me more
about your, this desert experience.
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I gotta know a little bit more because
you've alluded to it a couple times.
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You know, what, what kind of, I
guess, elaborate what happened?
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What was the impetus of doing
that and what was the, you know,
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what was the outcome as it were?
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Jim Murphy: Yeah.
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My, uh, um, my baseball career
ended in my twenties with an injury.
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And, uh, um, I was driving a
truck for FedEx and then that, uh.
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That's when I got asked to coach
the high school baseball team.
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Then I worked my way into the pros,
and that really, uh, um, um, that one
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year with the Rangers, um, it just
was, I felt like a failure because I
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left mid, mid midway through the season
and it just, it wasn't a good fit.
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I wasn't able to coach and
they just wanted me to watch
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and pay attention and mm-hmm.
521
,020 --> 00:22:34,500
Um, but then after that, coaching
the Olympics with South Africa
522
,500 --> 00:22:35,760
extraordinary experience.
523
,915 --> 00:22:38,280
I love that team, love those guys.
524
,700 --> 00:22:44,280
And, uh, um, but so after the Olympics,
that's when I was like, I went back to
525
,340 --> 00:22:47,340
being a personal trainer, which I did
in grad school to pay, pay the bills.
526
,340 --> 00:22:49,649
And I went back to doing that, trying
to figure out what to do with my life.
527
,649 --> 00:22:55,230
And then that's when my girlfriend
Maria, she said, um, she could
528
,230 --> 00:22:56,340
tell I was getting restless.
529
,730 --> 00:22:57,840
I'm trying to figure out.
530
,395 --> 00:23:00,525
I always wanted to do
something extraordinary.
531
,155 --> 00:23:04,995
And then, um, she kind of asked me what
I was doing with my life, and that's
532
,995 --> 00:23:09,135
when I decided to, uh, give away over
half my possessions and including my tv.
533
,135 --> 00:23:12,195
This is before streaming, moved
to the desert and live a life of
534
,195 --> 00:23:15,345
solitude to, to find something that,
that I could devote my life to,
535
,675 --> 00:23:15,975
Marc Preston: you know?
536
,975 --> 00:23:16,785
What did that give you?
537
,815 --> 00:23:20,205
What did you, what was your experience,
even just the solitude aspect of
538
,205 --> 00:23:20,295
Jim Murphy: it?
539
,325 --> 00:23:22,275
Um, well, it was lonely.
540
,235 --> 00:23:27,017
One of my first New Year's Eve, I'm,
I'm in an empty house and I, and I
541
,022 --> 00:23:29,325
hear a noise and I go outside and
I see fireworks and that's when I
542
,325 --> 00:23:30,855
first found out it was New Year's.
543
,545 --> 00:23:34,215
So, um, yeah.
544
,215 --> 00:23:37,545
And I got rid of my TV because
I didn't wanna waste my time in
545
,545 --> 00:23:42,225
the desert, be totally lonely
and waste that time watching tv.
546
,230 --> 00:23:42,410
Mm-hmm.
547
,495 --> 00:23:44,445
So I knew I had to get
rid of the TV as well.
548
,655 --> 00:23:45,795
So that's what I did.
549
,795 --> 00:23:47,415
And, and, uh, um.
550
,880 --> 00:23:49,410
Yeah, it was, it was hard.
551
,590 --> 00:23:53,580
Um, but I did that so I could, I
just wanted to make sure I found
552
,580 --> 00:23:56,340
something that I could devote my
life to that some worthy cause.
553
,430 --> 00:24:00,840
And, uh, so initially I thought it
was that worthy cause was to be a,
554
,050 --> 00:24:04,320
a personal coach to, to pro baseball
players and teach 'em how to have
555
,320 --> 00:24:07,950
peace, some confidence under pressure,
which I still do, but now I realize
556
,950 --> 00:24:09,570
that was far too low of a goal.
557
,720 --> 00:24:10,050
Um.
558
,755 --> 00:24:14,685
You know, now I, I try to, uh, um,
make a difference in the lives of
559
,685 --> 00:24:17,655
people, uh, especially athletes
and leaders all over the world.
560
,735 --> 00:24:20,715
Share, share God's love,
wisdom, and courage with him.
561
,165 --> 00:24:22,635
Marc Preston: How long
were you in the desert for?
562
,815 --> 00:24:23,655
Two and a half years.
563
,835 --> 00:24:24,345
Wow.
564
,345 --> 00:24:26,445
That's a, that's a nice stretch.
565
,685 --> 00:24:27,076
What did.
566
,615 --> 00:24:30,524
Your friends, family, what kind of
feedback were they giving you on this
567
,524 --> 00:24:32,115
decision you made to be in the desert?
568
,325 --> 00:24:33,585
Jim Murphy: Um, well there's two things.
569
,585 --> 00:24:35,295
One, it's not like I was in a teepee.
570
,295 --> 00:24:38,865
I was in town and I lived in a house,
well, I lived in the baseball academy.
571
,865 --> 00:24:41,835
My friend Ricky's the one that
invited me down to help him.
572
,955 --> 00:24:45,165
Um, so I helped him out part-time
and I lived there for a few months.
573
,585 --> 00:24:47,865
Um, there's no shower,
so I showered at the gym.
574
,345 --> 00:24:48,885
Um.
575
,530 --> 00:24:52,920
And then, uh, um, so yeah, being
there two and a half years, it
576
,920 --> 00:24:56,610
was, it was, um, it was lonely.
577
,850 --> 00:25:00,210
Um, actually my parents and sister
moved in for part of that time.
578
,630 --> 00:25:04,050
Um, but I would leave like at 7:00
AM and come back at 8:00 PM just go
579
,050 --> 00:25:07,830
to the coffee shop all day to work in
the book and or work at the academy.
580
,534 --> 00:25:13,514
Um, the reason why I left is because
I knew that my family, it was, it all
581
,514 --> 00:25:17,475
actually started off with the show,
Ellen, from the, from the eighties or
582
,475 --> 00:25:22,335
whenever in the nineties, Uhhuh, this
one episode, she was moving out from
583
,335 --> 00:25:25,665
her best friend's apartment and her
friend was like, why are you leaving?
584
,665 --> 00:25:26,325
And, and.
585
,014 --> 00:25:29,835
She was like, her friend was
like, um, why are you leaving?
586
,895 --> 00:25:31,035
We have the best time together.
587
,035 --> 00:25:34,425
We can sit around and, and just do
nothing and just have so much fun.
588
,425 --> 00:25:35,925
And she said, that's why I'm leaving.
589
,645 --> 00:25:40,875
Ah, because we have so much fun
together and can do nothing together.
590
,965 --> 00:25:45,345
And in five years I can still be here,
have done nothing for five years.
591
,345 --> 00:25:46,185
That's why I need to go.
592
,024 --> 00:25:49,305
And so I thought that exact thing.
593
,305 --> 00:25:53,355
If I stay here, um, my friends
and family will say, why would
594
,355 --> 00:25:54,645
you leave your life's great?
595
,885 --> 00:25:55,965
Don't do anything different.
596
,380 --> 00:25:58,240
You know, we love you,
your clients love you.
597
,480 --> 00:25:59,530
No need to leave.
598
,530 --> 00:26:02,500
And I knew I had to get away from
anyone that was gonna stop me from
599
,220 --> 00:26:05,230
thinking completely new thoughts.
600
,260 --> 00:26:05,350
Mm-hmm.
601
,590 --> 00:26:10,750
And, um, if anything was possible,
like I always, um, suggest for
602
,750 --> 00:26:14,170
any question, always start with if
anything's possible, what would you do?
603
,170 --> 00:26:14,320
Not.
604
,515 --> 00:26:18,025
Not looking at your current
circumstances and looking up.
605
,025 --> 00:26:21,085
We wanna look at it if anything's
possible and work backwards from there.
606
,625 --> 00:26:26,095
And so, um, I wanted to start with a,
a, a fresh slate and not have anyone
607
,185 --> 00:26:30,625
that knew my prior life to think of
me in terms that would hold me back.
608
,775 --> 00:26:32,725
Marc Preston: There's a through
line from, you know, your mother
609
,815 --> 00:26:34,615
with the, the samurai background.
610
,945 --> 00:26:36,325
Did, did it kind of
resonate with her at all?
611
,325 --> 00:26:39,775
Kinda like, okay, this is, this is,
you're doing a thing that's, you
612
,775 --> 00:26:42,595
know, you're not trying to be as a
big athlete earning all this money.
613
,595 --> 00:26:43,375
You're doing something.
614
,535 --> 00:26:46,865
You're going within, you know,
did, did, did she dig that?
615
,895 --> 00:26:47,975
Did she think that was cool?
616
,215 --> 00:26:50,885
Jim Murphy: My mom had such a
big influence on my life with
617
,885 --> 00:26:53,615
her discipline and her passion.
618
,095 --> 00:26:57,155
I was so kind of obsessive, determined.
619
,215 --> 00:27:01,445
I just, you know, kind of
made my own decision and, um.
620
,909 --> 00:27:07,949
You know, I think my parents were
probably concerned, um, like most parents
621
,949 --> 00:27:10,020
would be like, what is this kid doing?
622
,740 --> 00:27:13,740
Um, but I mean, I was, I was,
I, I wasn't a kid anymore.
623
,740 --> 00:27:16,949
I was, I think, I don't know,
thirties, early thirties.
624
,980 --> 00:27:17,070
Mm-hmm.
625
,310 --> 00:27:24,090
So, but um, yeah, it does have
some of that, uh, I guess, uh, um,
626
,179 --> 00:27:27,780
Japanese culture ish, uh, samurai Zen.
627
,365 --> 00:27:29,355
Possibilities around it.
628
,355 --> 00:27:29,505
Yeah.
629
Impact of AJ Brown and Future Goals
,105 --> 00:27:32,205
Marc Preston: Well, what now you're
talking about the setting the goals
630
,205 --> 00:27:35,865
and basically you setting high bar,
uh, what are you looking at now in
631
,865 --> 00:27:38,535
life and, you know, I know you've,
you've got this, this book and you're
632
,565 --> 00:27:41,535
doing the audiobook portion, which I
know can be a bear, you know, what,
633
,535 --> 00:27:42,765
what goals are you now setting?
634
,765 --> 00:27:45,615
What things are starting to come into
focus that would make sense for you
635
,615 --> 00:27:48,045
for something else to, to go after?
636
,915 --> 00:27:52,275
Jim Murphy: My whole life I've ob
obsessed about being a superstar.
637
,335 --> 00:27:56,835
Um, and even, even before January
12th when everything kind of changed
638
,835 --> 00:27:59,745
with AJ Brown reading the book and
on the sidelines against the Packers,
639
,075 --> 00:28:07,785
um, it's, there's, there's been so
much work on trying to build a life
640
,815 --> 00:28:10,545
and most of my life is like trying
to build a life like most people.
641
,055 --> 00:28:12,675
And, um.
642
,350 --> 00:28:19,680
So now it's, it's definitely shifted
to, um, not trying to build a life,
643
,830 --> 00:28:21,840
um, or anything for me, really.
644
,290 --> 00:28:25,980
Um, although I will, I. Gladly
participate in anything that happens.
645
,430 --> 00:28:28,860
Um, I wanna make a difference
all over the world.
646
,860 --> 00:28:33,570
Like, so, I'm so grateful that the book's
gonna be translated into so far, I don't
647
,570 --> 00:28:35,670
know, 25 languages or something like that.
648
,240 --> 00:28:39,150
Um, and with the worldwide launch
coming up in really excited for
649
,150 --> 00:28:40,170
the launch around the world.
650
,395 --> 00:28:43,245
Marc Preston: That's gotta be ex exciting,
especially just the, the amount of work
651
,245 --> 00:28:44,834
and heart and effort you put into it.
652
,014 --> 00:28:46,544
That's a wonderful accomplishment.
653
,054 --> 00:28:49,695
We, you saw AJ Brown on
the sidelines reading it.
654
,695 --> 00:28:52,364
I mean, did you see it or did
somebody tell you about it?
655
,574 --> 00:28:54,225
And then how did you find out?
656
,465 --> 00:28:57,735
Jim Murphy: I was in a hotel room
watching Penn State play Notre Dame, a
657
,735 --> 00:28:59,114
bowl game that was a couple weeks old.
658
,114 --> 00:29:02,294
And, and then I saw my text
and I thought my mom had died
659
,294 --> 00:29:03,614
because, uh, she was dying.
660
,304 --> 00:29:06,915
We, that's why I thought there
were so many texts, but that's,
661
,975 --> 00:29:09,405
people were telling me, I gotta
watch this, uh, football game.
662
,764 --> 00:29:12,254
Marc Preston: Have you had an opportunity
to chat with AJ Brown about it?
663
,254 --> 00:29:15,760
Like, Hey, you know, by the way, thanks
for reading my book, you know, you know,
664
,760 --> 00:29:17,294
or have you had any interaction with him?
665
,375 --> 00:29:19,185
Jim Murphy: Yeah, yeah.
666
,185 --> 00:29:20,085
I, I have great guy.
667
,085 --> 00:29:22,304
Um, very soft spoken, nice guy.
668
,695 --> 00:29:27,465
Um, we've, we've talked a few times
and I think, um, I wanna make sure
669
,465 --> 00:29:33,919
that, I wanna make sure that people
realize that, um, this is what AJ.
670
,425 --> 00:29:40,245
Brown did, um, was kind of a,
um, a launching point for lives
671
,245 --> 00:29:41,715
getting changed around the world.
672
,255 --> 00:29:45,915
Um, my life changed, but I'm
one person out of 8 billion.
673
,035 --> 00:29:47,805
Like, that's not a big deal.
674
,345 --> 00:29:52,035
What's a big deal is millions of
lives that are gonna get changed.
675
,215 --> 00:29:53,295
Marc Preston: Do you
have any kids by chance?
676
,350 --> 00:29:54,945
Jim Murphy: Not yet.
677
,945 --> 00:29:54,975
I
678
,275 --> 00:29:56,535
Marc Preston: have nephews and nieces.
679
,105 --> 00:30:00,435
Let's say, well, let's, let's, you know,
one of your nephews or nieces says to you.
680
,840 --> 00:30:02,340
Who should I watch right now?
681
,340 --> 00:30:06,030
Like who do you think is, is
an athlete who would in, would
682
,030 --> 00:30:07,410
inspire me in all the right ways?
683
,415 --> 00:30:08,910
Who, who do you think out there?
684
,000 --> 00:30:11,130
Uh, well, even some guys from the past,
685
,310 --> 00:30:15,420
Jim Murphy: well my nephews and
nieces are almost all hutterites
686
,480 --> 00:30:18,570
with, they don't have TVs HU to
write is like an Amish, so they make
687
,570 --> 00:30:19,740
their own clothes live on the farm.
688
,740 --> 00:30:20,040
Oh really?
689
,040 --> 00:30:26,940
And uh, um, so, so they're not, uh,
looking at athletes as role models.
690
,060 --> 00:30:27,270
Um.
691
,990 --> 00:30:32,190
You know, I think what AJ Brown did
was really powerful because what he
692
,190 --> 00:30:38,610
did was, um, he showed us all that,
um, um, yes, you do have time to read.
693
,330 --> 00:30:39,420
Mm-hmm.
694
,810 --> 00:30:43,379
Um, if he can get it done,
then you can get it done.
695
,379 --> 00:30:45,540
Like you're no busier than he is.
696
,350 --> 00:30:49,710
And the other thing that he
did was he showed us that, um.
697
,729 --> 00:30:54,719
He just provided an example of, of,
Hey, I'm gonna be true to myself.
698
,719 --> 00:30:58,169
Like, I don't, I know people may think
this is crazy or I don't know what
699
,169 --> 00:31:03,120
they're gonna think, but I know reading
inner excellence on the sidelines helps
700
,120 --> 00:31:06,540
me get centered and focused and I'm
gonna do it and whatever they want to
701
,540 --> 00:31:08,100
think they can think and so, mm-hmm.
702
,340 --> 00:31:10,590
Him staying true to himself
is a powerful thing.
703
,074 --> 00:31:12,449
Marc Preston: Now, what
are you working on next?
704
,449 --> 00:31:15,060
Do you have any, uh, are you, like,
are you thinking Okay, another
705
,060 --> 00:31:18,389
book, you know, or, or you, uh,
do you have any other projects
706
,389 --> 00:31:19,415
you're, you're working on right now?
707
,595 --> 00:31:21,105
Jim Murphy: I sure do.
708
,465 --> 00:31:26,355
Um, well, we've got, uh, um, I,
I've got a book that's coming out
709
,355 --> 00:31:29,085
called The Best Possible Life, uh,
how to Live With Deep Contaminant
710
,085 --> 00:31:30,615
Joint Confidence No matter what.
711
,675 --> 00:31:35,235
It's actually on Amazon now, but we're,
um, we're relaunching it for, um, I.
712
,330 --> 00:31:40,169
I believe it's gonna be a hardcover
in the fall, so that'll probably
713
,169 --> 00:31:41,669
come out, I think end of September.
714
,239 --> 00:31:43,439
Um mm-hmm.
715
,439 --> 00:31:44,820
In bookstores all over the world.
716
,850 --> 00:31:48,659
And then, uh, um, working on a
workbook for Inner Excellence.
717
,810 --> 00:31:51,330
And so that'll come out in 2026.
718
,659 --> 00:31:54,120
So likely to be a podcast
coming out as well.
719
,149 --> 00:31:56,669
Um, probably, uh, sometime
in the next six months.
720
,820 --> 00:31:59,370
Marc Preston: Being sedentary isn't
something that you're really down with.
721
,820 --> 00:32:01,254
It sounds like you got, uh, like to be.
722
,400 --> 00:32:04,220
Constant forward mo, forward
momentum, motion, whatever have you.
723
,400 --> 00:32:09,770
Jim Murphy: I think I've, I've, um, in my
mind have been one of the laziest people
724
,770 --> 00:32:16,160
I know well, simultaneously taken on a
lot more than I can handle historically.
725
,580 --> 00:32:16,670
Mm-hmm.
726
,910 --> 00:32:19,940
Like always wanting, like, if
anything's possible, let's try it.
727
,210 --> 00:32:24,770
I think discipline is something that
I, that, uh, and self-centeredness, two
728
,770 --> 00:32:28,700
things that I really need to, could use
a lot of, uh, improvement on as far as.
729
,429 --> 00:32:30,929
Having big dreams and goals.
730
,929 --> 00:32:33,064
I mean, that's, I think that's
been part of me for my whole life.
731
,615 --> 00:32:34,905
Marc Preston: What you
mentioned with AJ Brown.
732
,905 --> 00:32:37,155
The other thing is, uh,
you can always be learning.
733
,365 --> 00:32:40,245
You know that learning never
stops and the growth never stops.
734
,245 --> 00:32:42,135
And I think that that
was one big takeaway.
735
,135 --> 00:32:44,085
If somebody's sitting there
reading, I'm always kinda thinking,
736
,085 --> 00:32:45,795
well, they're trying to get
some new knowledge, you know?
737
,885 --> 00:32:46,125
Yeah.
738
,155 --> 00:32:49,725
But if they're reading a book like
yours, obviously they're trying to
739
,725 --> 00:32:51,345
keep building, keep moving, you know?
740
,405 --> 00:32:52,935
Do you enjoy working more with.
741
,185 --> 00:32:54,925
Like college, high school.
742
,925 --> 00:32:55,195
Yeah.
743
,254 --> 00:32:55,824
Professional.
744
,824 --> 00:33:00,655
Is there a certain age or or station
of athlete that you like to work with?
745
,834 --> 00:33:03,235
Jim Murphy: Um, my favorite person.
746
,294 --> 00:33:06,955
Well, I wanna always wanna work with
someone that's really motivated, um, that
747
,955 --> 00:33:08,455
wants to make a difference in the world.
748
,455 --> 00:33:09,985
That's, that's probably my favorite.
749
,435 --> 00:33:13,885
Um, I think the, uh.
750
,625 --> 00:33:15,555
I love sports.
751
,555 --> 00:33:18,135
And so if they're involved in
sports, that's amazing, but it could
752
,135 --> 00:33:21,135
be a musician or anybody really
that's, that's really motivated.
753
,135 --> 00:33:24,735
Wants to, to, uh, do something
great with their life, make
754
,735 --> 00:33:25,545
a difference in the world.
755
,965 --> 00:33:29,145
Um, I love young kids, especially
high school and college.
756
,205 --> 00:33:31,215
Um, I just love their, their.
757
,255 --> 00:33:38,515
Um, dreaming big and fearlessness and,
and, uh, um, just such great ideals and
758
,515 --> 00:33:40,255
I want to be around that sort of energy.
759
,375 --> 00:33:42,595
And so that's always very inspiring.
760
,805 --> 00:33:49,795
I also love people that, that, uh, um,
wanna live out their faith and, and,
761
,825 --> 00:33:51,475
and are willing to sacrifice to do it.
762
The Seven Questions
,575 --> 00:34:00,945
Marc Preston: I have something
I do call my seven questions.
763
,945 --> 00:34:02,865
Last thing we do, uh, a little extra fun.
764
,285 --> 00:34:06,795
The first question I got is, what
is your favorite comfort food?
765
,945 --> 00:34:08,054
That thing, bad day.
766
,054 --> 00:34:09,315
Good day doesn't make a difference.
767
,315 --> 00:34:11,895
You just, it's just makes you feel good.
768
,810 --> 00:34:13,560
Jim Murphy: Oh, sushi.
769
,799 --> 00:34:14,130
Yeah.
770
,190 --> 00:34:15,330
I love, love sushi.
771
,389 --> 00:34:15,960
I mean, New York
772
,960 --> 00:34:17,969
Marc Preston: City is
like, it's dangerous.
773
,060 --> 00:34:18,960
I'm very envious.
774
,960 --> 00:34:21,480
We don't, we have like one
on the island here, but it's
775
,630 --> 00:34:22,949
ah, I miss really good sushi.
776
,279 --> 00:34:27,120
Now, if you were to sit down with three
folks, uh, you're gonna talk story
777
,120 --> 00:34:30,480
a few hours, have a cup of coffee,
living or not, who would those three
778
,480 --> 00:34:33,389
people be you would like to sit down
with for, for hours and have, well, we
779
,665 --> 00:34:34,590
Jim Murphy: would take away Jesus Christ.
780
,590 --> 00:34:36,120
'cause obviously that would be obvious.
781
,150 --> 00:34:38,940
I think that doesn't take much
thought creator of the universe.
782
,239 --> 00:34:40,230
We take away him.
783
,725 --> 00:34:44,955
It'd probably be, uh, Solomon, um,
you know, the wisest person ever.
784
,435 --> 00:34:50,355
Um, probably Moses the most humble person
ever, or at least at the, at his time.
785
,444 --> 00:34:53,895
Um, and I think humble is,
um, and wisdom go together.
786
,645 --> 00:34:57,420
And so, um, I. That
would be pretty amazing.
787
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And then kind of talk about the,
uh, um, the whole Red Sea thing.
788
,259 --> 00:35:02,430
Hey, what was that like?
789
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That must have been cool.
790
,930 --> 00:35:06,210
Um, the third one would be King David.
791
,450 --> 00:35:11,759
Um, he, you know, he, uh, uh,
he was very human and made some
792
,759 --> 00:35:14,460
horrible mistakes and, uh, um.
793
,060 --> 00:35:18,000
When I think of he is someone
that really inspires me because
794
,210 --> 00:35:22,259
he has turned into such an
extraordinary world changing person.
795
,259 --> 00:35:22,350
Mm-hmm.
796
,680 --> 00:35:25,439
But he did some horrible
things and God forgave him.
797
,439 --> 00:35:28,919
So when I think about my life and how
some things that I've done have not
798
,919 --> 00:35:33,060
been good, I was like, well, I didn't
kill people and, you know, I didn't,
799
,060 --> 00:35:36,660
I wasn't a murderer and an adulterer
and all those things that David did.
800
,290 --> 00:35:40,680
And so, uh, um, and he
went on to do great things.
801
,680 --> 00:35:42,450
And so, um, I think those three would be.
802
,945 --> 00:35:44,835
Marc Preston: You know, I'm curious
if it would be coffee or tea or
803
,835 --> 00:35:46,065
what y'all be drinking at that.
804
,065 --> 00:35:47,055
Uh, I would say coffee.
805
,265 --> 00:35:47,745
That's my thing.
806
,895 --> 00:35:51,375
If you were to go back when you were,
you know, a young guy, uh, you know,
807
,375 --> 00:35:55,845
you were, you were a teen, who was your
first celebrity crush that you had?
808
,759 --> 00:35:57,480
Jim Murphy: I don't know.
809
,480 --> 00:36:01,529
I mean this kind of would date me
a little bit, but she's in a movie
810
,529 --> 00:36:06,509
with Rob Lowe, um, Demi Moore, um,
oh yeah, when I was, yeah, young.
811
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Marc Preston: She's had a great revival
lately, you know, of, uh, doing some, I
812
,359 --> 00:36:12,330
mean, she's always been working, but you
know, some great stuff out right now, now.
813
,825 --> 00:36:14,775
The next question, if you're
gonna be living on an island,
814
,775 --> 00:36:16,215
exotic, beautiful, wonderful.
815
,215 --> 00:36:17,625
It's, it's like a resort.
816
,625 --> 00:36:19,455
You want to be there, it's a great
place you're gonna, but you're
817
,455 --> 00:36:20,775
gonna have to be there a whole year.
818
,675 --> 00:36:23,865
And you don't have streaming though.
819
,895 --> 00:36:27,615
So if you wanna listen to an
album, you gotta bring a cd.
820
,615 --> 00:36:30,970
And if you, you know, wanna
watch a movie, you gotta bring a
821
,970 --> 00:36:32,320
DVD 'cause there's no streaming.
822
,320 --> 00:36:34,960
So what CD and what DVD would you bring?
823
,960 --> 00:36:38,590
It can be a box set, you know,
I'll say that, but, uh, what would
824
,590 --> 00:36:39,610
you bring to the island with you?
825
,670 --> 00:36:41,410
Jim Murphy: Well, the music,
hopefully I could bring an
826
,410 --> 00:36:43,000
iPod with my music playlist.
827
,000 --> 00:36:46,060
'cause I listen to a, a morning
playlist, the same playlist every day.
828
,690 --> 00:36:48,580
Um, that's lines up with my purpose.
829
,580 --> 00:36:52,390
And so I would, that would be, uh,
my hope that I could have my iPod to
830
,390 --> 00:36:53,770
listen to that playlist every day.
831
,430 --> 00:36:57,130
Um, because the playlist is, is, um.
832
,395 --> 00:37:00,225
Pleasure is the smallest part of it.
833
,005 --> 00:37:06,105
There's, um, helping me f feel
connected to my purpose and to
834
,105 --> 00:37:10,575
God, and then expanding my beliefs
about who I am and what's possible.
835
,055 --> 00:37:13,185
Um, and then the good feeling from it.
836
,275 --> 00:37:15,345
So that playlist is important.
837
,795 --> 00:37:16,515
Movie.
838
,935 --> 00:37:17,625
Um.
839
,390 --> 00:37:23,940
I would say the chosen, uh, chosen series
just so I can get inspired and, and,
840
,940 --> 00:37:26,730
uh, um, be reminded of, of who I am.
841
,970 --> 00:37:30,420
Marc Preston: Now, if you were to
define from beginning to end stem to
842
,420 --> 00:37:34,261
stern per, uh, the component parts of a
perfect day for you, what would that be?
843
,145 --> 00:37:36,075
Jim Murphy: Oh, that's fun.
844
,345 --> 00:37:41,625
Um, okay, so I'm gonna wake up and
I'm point to heaven like I always
845
,625 --> 00:37:45,015
do, and say, father, I belong to
you and put on the morning playlist.
846
,345 --> 00:37:49,365
I'm gonna have the, uh, um, ice water
for my face to do the, uh, immersion.
847
,875 --> 00:37:50,235
Um.
848
,495 --> 00:37:56,505
And then, uh, we're gonna sit outside
in the, uh, um, with some view
849
,505 --> 00:38:00,585
sun on my face and have the quiet
time with God, the 10 minutes, um,
850
,645 --> 00:38:02,175
with the worship music going on.
851
,175 --> 00:38:05,385
And then, um, we're gonna have the
board game set up, ready to go with
852
,385 --> 00:38:09,975
the coffee, overlooking a beautiful
view, um, play that board game.
853
,975 --> 00:38:12,825
And then the massage therapist comes
in, gets me ready for the golf.
854
,825 --> 00:38:16,875
We we go off to the golf, play the
golf, come back, have an amazing meal.
855
,250 --> 00:38:18,390
Probably sushi.
856
,780 --> 00:38:22,650
Um, another board game, maybe
some pickleball, maybe mix in
857
,650 --> 00:38:24,540
some fly fishing if we got time.
858
,570 --> 00:38:26,970
And then, uh, um, have
another amazing meal.
859
,970 --> 00:38:27,930
Maybe some Thai.
860
,725 --> 00:38:33,855
Curry and then finish with board
games, um, the whole time talking
861
,855 --> 00:38:37,125
about, uh, inner excellence, um,
how to live the best possible life,
862
,185 --> 00:38:39,825
uh, a life connected to the creator.
863
,095 --> 00:38:41,265
Marc Preston: Yeah,
that's a very dense day.
864
,265 --> 00:38:42,884
Some people want to have
a very leisurely day.
865
,884 --> 00:38:44,775
That's the opposite of
whatever leisurely is.
866
,255 --> 00:38:45,945
That's very cool.
867
,305 --> 00:38:49,755
Now, if you were to, um, uh,
if, if somebody said, okay, now
868
,815 --> 00:38:51,045
this thing you're doing now.
869
,674 --> 00:38:52,605
You can't do it anymore.
870
,935 --> 00:38:54,825
It's, you know, you gotta
find some other vocation.
871
,825 --> 00:38:56,834
This is just not gonna be what you do.
872
,015 --> 00:39:00,645
What would be the number one thing
outside of this that would bring you joy?
873
,245 --> 00:39:01,904
Jim Murphy: Joy.
874
,935 --> 00:39:02,895
Now we're talking.
875
,075 --> 00:39:05,895
I like that word, joy.
876
,134 --> 00:39:11,774
Um, well, when you say joy, if you mean
a deep sense of wellbeing, freedom and
877
,774 --> 00:39:14,084
gratitude, independent of circumstances.
878
,595 --> 00:39:16,334
Um, it really could really be anything.
879
,785 --> 00:39:17,145
Um.
880
,420 --> 00:39:26,730
But, um, I think it would probably be,
um, um, a, uh, fly fishing pickleball,
881
,730 --> 00:39:30,840
golfing, uh, guide where I'm just golfing.
882
,365 --> 00:39:34,425
Playing pickleball and, and, uh,
that, that, you know, that actually
883
,425 --> 00:39:34,785
Marc Preston: sounds cool.
884
,785 --> 00:39:37,635
If you got to, let's go back to
that big island, you know, where
885
,635 --> 00:39:40,695
you've got, you know, you've got
beautiful golf courses and you spend
886
,695 --> 00:39:41,985
your whole day just doing that.
887
,135 --> 00:39:45,165
That's one thing I love about living here,
uh, is you know, people come on vacation,
888
,165 --> 00:39:46,275
they're having the best time ever.
889
,275 --> 00:39:48,315
I'm like, that's like a
vibe I really kind of enjoy.
890
,315 --> 00:39:50,685
'cause you got families here
and even spring breakers and you
891
,685 --> 00:39:51,915
kind of, I would love to have a
892
,915 --> 00:39:54,795
Jim Murphy: retreat center
where, um, that, where people
893
,795 --> 00:39:55,965
come and they feel like.
894
,000 --> 00:39:58,610
Um, so much peace and joy when they come.
895
,090 --> 00:40:02,630
And, uh, it's so beautiful that
they never wanna leave and they
896
,630 --> 00:40:05,570
feel so healthy physically,
mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
897
,570 --> 00:40:07,970
And they feel like they
left a better person.
898
,970 --> 00:40:10,220
They've learned and grown
just by being there.
899
,700 --> 00:40:13,041
And they had so much fun
playing board games and, and
900
,070 --> 00:40:14,090
pickleball and things like that.
901
,090 --> 00:40:14,721
That would be pretty amazing.
902
,395 --> 00:40:16,055
Marc Preston: That would be awesome.
903
,055 --> 00:40:19,355
Kinda like a retreat that, uh,
it's multi focused, you know,
904
,355 --> 00:40:20,495
it's like you're still having fun.
905
,495 --> 00:40:20,555
Yeah.
906
,555 --> 00:40:20,975
You're learning.
907
,975 --> 00:40:21,245
Yeah.
908
,245 --> 00:40:22,295
That's, that's, um,
909
,505 --> 00:40:24,095
Jim Murphy: and in
interact retreat center.
910
,695 --> 00:40:25,265
Marc Preston: There you go.
911
,265 --> 00:40:27,215
See, I, I, I'm gonna keep an
eye, I'm gonna be watching
912
,215 --> 00:40:28,175
when you open that up, man.
913
,175 --> 00:40:29,075
I'm gonna be at your front door.
914
,075 --> 00:40:30,455
Like, let me in.
915
,175 --> 00:40:31,265
Come.
916
,265 --> 00:40:31,595
Wow.
917
,015 --> 00:40:33,335
The last question I got for you.
918
,485 --> 00:40:36,815
If, uh, you could get into that DeLorean
and travel back to when you're 16 years
919
,815 --> 00:40:40,505
old, you, you're gonna have a few minutes
with your younger self and you got piece
920
,505 --> 00:40:42,155
of advice to either make that moment.
921
,510 --> 00:40:45,990
Better or kind of get you on a
different trajectory to, to something.
922
,785 --> 00:40:50,715
What you think is better, what would that
piece of advice be to 16-year-old you?
923
,015 --> 00:40:51,645
Jim Murphy: Oh yeah.
924
,645 --> 00:40:56,325
So, um, what's happened to, to me
in my life is that I, um, and I
925
,325 --> 00:41:00,225
think this very human is to get so
caught up in the circumstances and
926
,225 --> 00:41:02,595
just like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh,
I can't believe this is happening.
927
,595 --> 00:41:03,495
This is so terrible.
928
,095 --> 00:41:05,925
And get so like nearly.
929
,195 --> 00:41:07,395
Suicidal.
930
,395 --> 00:41:10,275
I think that's a very common
for a kid and for adults to
931
,275 --> 00:41:11,445
be like, oh, my life is over.
932
,445 --> 00:41:12,075
I can't believe this.
933
,075 --> 00:41:13,185
I've got no hope, nothing.
934
,245 --> 00:41:14,505
I mean, we've all been through that.
935
,595 --> 00:41:18,465
And then I would go back and say,
look Jim, you're gonna go through
936
,465 --> 00:41:20,535
training because God loves you so much.
937
,535 --> 00:41:22,545
He's gonna do, do a lot
of training for you.
938
,545 --> 00:41:26,055
And it's not just training,
that's just to be a better person.
939
,055 --> 00:41:28,305
It's gonna be training to give
you an extraordinary life.
940
,980 --> 00:41:30,480
Marc Preston: My friend,
best of luck to you.
941
,480 --> 00:41:33,120
Best of luck wrapping up the audio
book and everything you're doing.
942
,120 --> 00:41:35,460
I, I'm telling you, if you
do that retreat, that island
943
,460 --> 00:41:38,430
retreat, I, I'm telling you, I'm
gonna be customer number one.
944
,910 --> 00:41:39,180
Come out there.
945
,180 --> 00:41:39,960
Thanks so much, Marc.
946
,200 --> 00:41:42,960
Well my friend, have yourself a,
uh, great rest of your week and,
947
,960 --> 00:41:44,130
uh, and the best of luck to you.
948
,400 --> 00:41:44,820
Jim Murphy: Thank you.
949
,800 --> 00:41:47,100
Marc Preston: Okay.
950
,100 --> 00:41:48,300
There you go, Jim.
951
,325 --> 00:41:53,365
Murphy enjoyed the story, the journey
that got Jim to the point where he
952
,365 --> 00:41:57,475
wrote the book Inner Excellence,
which has been talked about a bunch.
953
,774 --> 00:42:00,504
Uh, as I mentioned at the beginning
of the episode, uh, AJ Brown
954
,504 --> 00:42:01,915
from the Philadelphia Eagles.
955
,185 --> 00:42:06,055
If you're reading a book on the sidelines,
I guess you get some attention and, uh,
956
,355 --> 00:42:09,865
a book a lot of people have found out
about and, uh, you know, good stories,
957
,865 --> 00:42:12,475
good motivation, always down for that.
958
,755 --> 00:42:17,225
Okay, so do me a favor if you would
head on over to story and craft pod.com.
959
,525 --> 00:42:19,985
Everything about the
show, it is right there.
960
,285 --> 00:42:21,875
Uh, you can shoot me a note.
961
,905 --> 00:42:26,495
Always enjoy the opportunity to, uh,
hear from you and just kind of interact.
962
,585 --> 00:42:30,395
Now, you'll also notice the
super cast logo on the site, as
963
,395 --> 00:42:31,715
well as the little coffee cup.
964
,925 --> 00:42:33,845
Two new ways you can support.
965
,865 --> 00:42:37,194
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mischief I got going on here.
966
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Uh, also on your podcast app.
967
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Make sure to follow the show
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968
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969
,754 --> 00:42:47,154
Alright, so, uh, tell you what
I'm gonna get on out of here.
970
,214 --> 00:42:50,214
You have yourself a
great rest of your week.
971
,274 --> 00:42:55,345
Uh, great morning, evening, a great run or
drive in the car or whatever you're doing.
972
,435 --> 00:42:59,875
And hey, if you are shooting me a note to
say hello, tell me what you'd like to do.
973
,070 --> 00:43:04,240
When you are, that was Ranger
the, uh, studio dog saying hello.
974
,890 --> 00:43:05,640
Did you say hi?
975
,850 --> 00:43:06,120
Okay.
976
,210 --> 00:43:06,509
Alright.
977
,509 --> 00:43:07,230
You wanted to say hi?
978
,590 --> 00:43:08,910
Uh, just uh, do me a favor.
979
,910 --> 00:43:10,080
Tell me where you listen.
980
,110 --> 00:43:11,220
I always like hearing that.
981
,310 --> 00:43:12,390
Is it during a workout?
982
,390 --> 00:43:15,330
Walking your pooch, uh,
whatever you got going on.
983
,600 --> 00:43:19,290
So I'm gonna head on out of here, but
as I always say, thank you so very much
984
,290 --> 00:43:20,940
for making what I got going on here.
985
,940 --> 00:43:21,960
Part of whatever.
986
,259 --> 00:43:23,190
You've got going on.
987
,190 --> 00:43:26,730
It does mean a lot to me to have
you here, and we'll catch up next
988
,730 --> 00:43:29,130
time right here on Story and Craft.
989
,400 --> 00:43:32,160
Announcer: That's it for this
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,190 --> 00:43:34,650
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,830 --> 00:43:39,029
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992
,090 --> 00:43:40,560
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,560 --> 00:43:43,590
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994
,640 --> 00:43:47,060
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995
,359 --> 00:43:50,930
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Jim Murphy
Author
#1 New York Times bestselling author Jim Murphy is a Performance Coach to some of the best athletes and leaders in the world. He began his career as a professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization. After experiencing vision issues that ended his playing career, Murphy coached with the Texas Rangers as well as the South African Olympic baseball team. He has worked with some of the world’s best golfers, including world champions, FedEx Cup champions, and world #1’s. The majority of Murphy’s clients have the best year of their careers in their first year working with him. In addition to coaching professional athletes and executives, Murphy leads Inner Excellence offsite retreats around the globe. He is the president of the Inner Excellence Freedom Project whose mission is to build communities to alleviate spiritual and physical poverty around the world.